Resource Girl

Time Passes, Dreams Don’t Fade

May 17th, 2017

To pursue the practical to survive in a system that we didn’t create, threatens to smash the dreams that we were given from the time we entered this world. Dreams to change things or dreams to create something, dreams to change your economic status or to inspire other, dreams deep within our heart that we understand or that we can only see a glimpse of the world we are to walk in but the dreams remain.

Often times they rear their heads when we are in a job that we were not created for. We are there, all dressed up with the task for the day. Orders are given, we can barely hear what they say as the visions cross in front of our eyes, blurring whatever has been said or heard. The thing is…what is said, doesn’t matter to our dreams, our dreams are screaming to get our attention when we snap at our unknowing co-workers, some who have never had a dream other than the day-t0-day or others have given up on their dreams. Dreams aren’t giving up on us.

Recently I made a plan to leave NYC for 3 months and go to Charleston, SC. Charleston is calling my name, why you may ask, because I can feel that my dreams I have been pushing down, like a large Christmas tree in a wood shredder, could be nurtured in that space. A milder climate, palm trees, the beach, bicycles aplenty, lower cost of living and a friendlier environment. My dreams aren’t satisfied in my small apartment, cold weather, grumpy management company reluctant to provide good service and the overall chaotic environment that NYC provides. As soon as I stated in my mind, to my friends and to acquaintances, everywhere I went I met people with a connection to Charleston. Our dreams know what they need to survive. They are fighting with us daily and begging us to have the courage to bring them to fruition.

One of my dreams, to complete my children’s book could easily be accomplished in a gentler environment. One large room with bright light, a bicycle for refreshing breaks and the release of the rat race…and I am sure it can be done. So what I am trying to say is, notice how you are feeling at your current job, understand your frustrations as sign posts to lead you towards what you were meant to do.



Mega Resources from The Resource Girl Today

February 27th, 2013

A friend of mine who is a wonderful comic ( said, “You are like Hector the Collector”, I replied who is that and then she shared this beautiful poem.


by Shel Silverstein

Hector the Collector
Collected bits of string,
Collected dolls with broken heads
And rusty bells that would not ring.
Pieces out of picture puzzles,
Bent-up nails and ice-cream sticks,
Twists of wires, worn-out tires,
Paper bags and broken bricks.
Old chipped vases, half shoelaces,
Gatlin’ guns that wouldn’t shoot,
Leaky boats that wouldn’t float
And stopped-up horns that wouldn’t toot.
Butter knives that had no handles,
Copper keys that fit no locks,
Rings that were too small for fingers,
Dried-up leaves and patched-up socks.
Worn-out belts that had no buckles,
‘Lectric trains that had no tracks,
Airplane models, broken bottles,
Three-legged chairs and cups with cracks.
Hector the Collector
Loved these things with all his soul‹
Loved them more than shining diamonds,
Loved them more than glistenin’ gold.
Hector called to all the people,
“Come and share my treasure trunk!”
And all the silly sightless people
Came and looked…and called it junk.

The Resource Girl does come from a family of organized hoarders, yes I said organized. There might be a lot of stuff in my relatives possession but it is all relatively organized. For more than 4 years, I have been on a journey of release and really embracing “less is more”; however when it comes to resources for saving money and creating a healthy financial life-there really can’t be too many.

Here is a list to guide you to fruitful savings:,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

To Prosperity and Continued Hope,

Time to reflect in Texas

February 21st, 2013

Everyone says that “Everything is Bigger in Texas” currently I sit in a room that is almost as big as my apartment in NYC. I sit at a desk that is larger than my kitchen counter. Why do I share such boring details of a life lived; because I have outgrown the way I am living in New York. My apartment is too small and Starbucks is no longer a suitable office for my taste. Loud, not really clean, crowded it is, but I still adore the coffee and currently my absolute favorite is a tall soy cappucino (often decaf) with a decadent shot of hazelnut. Why decadent? That little shot costs extra.

The Resource Girl is an avid believer in making sure to take her own advice. For years officially and unofficially she (that would be me, but I really think The Resource Girl is such a more put together entity, so for a moment I talk about her from below as I have placed her on a pedestal of gold) shares advice of all types about survival in the city and beyond.

This year my biggest New Year’s resolution have been to turn every single piece of advice back on myself. So since the year is relatively new, below you will see the actions that I am taking to live what I have “preached” for years.

1. Continuous creative ways to make money,,,,

2. More ways to find money selling electronics on,,

3.Doing the research to find an affordable health care. If you are a small business, there really are options for you that don’t break the bank. I have found one.

4.Signing up for the gym. The stress relief that my gym has provided me has increased my emotional stability and my money making power. When I feel great, I shine brighter in whatever endeavor I pursue.

5.Continuing to attend a church when my schedule permits. Working more, I have gone less. For a balanced life, prayer has been an elixir of good health and so I will go more frequently.

6.Continued awareness of the tools that are in the use of credit cards i.e. travel rewards, cash back. We all have to buy toothpaste and toilet paper, so why not be rewarded?

7. Diligence in keeping a small space orderly.

8.Eating at home as often as possible. This choice is VERY difficult in NYC as the culture is one of going out. I have found this the most painful of all.

9.Saying YES a lot more to fun. (Tonight I played Wii bowling and I enjoyed my competitive spirit that rose up within me)

10. I would be the first one to tell a friend to be gentle with themselves and to realize that often our progress is difficult to see from the outside. So being gentle with myself is what I work on doing.

Last thoughts for this day, I am back in the saddle and working on my second book. It is an entirely different topic but I look forward to keeping you posted on the progress.

Perplexed and vexed but not crushed

February 17th, 2012

The city asks so much of you and as you feel you are near to please it, it presents another hurdle to conquer. Thankfully New York City has some of the most beautiful quiet spots. I have this great little book call “New York’s 50 Best Places to Find Peace and Quiet” by Allan Ishac. I find that the churches here are some of the best places to pray, medidate, contemplate and most importantly to turn off your cell phones.

“When you are spinning,” as Miss Babs says of the Kickin’ Boogey Band,”Sit down right where you are and ask yourself intuitively to see what is most important to focus on. Take the time to stop the spinning.” Thanks Miss Babs, I needed that!

Maybe you are spinning today, stop right now and take time to calm yourself down or to let God calm you down. I promise it will make living in NYC or anywhere easier.

Hugs and dunked oreos in your milk or non-milk of choice,

Change is coming

January 31st, 2012

Time flies and my fingers have been typing away on a new book(s). The first is about Italian/American cultural observations that I have made for the past 20 years that I have been going. The second is one that EVERYONE will be interested in: A love story that most of have with Gelato/Icecream. Both books are going to be a journey in themselves, but writing about and research for Icecream, mmmm, just can’t wait. Good thing I am finally joining a gym. For many years I used the coupon book American Health and Fitness Alliance and it was amazing, but I am ready to go to one place consistently.

Recently I got new headshots and bodyshots, so much of what I see I am proud of but there are some mushy bits and I am ready to attack them. After dancing all of my life, well when you stop, uhmm, the body can only hold on to that muscle tone but for so long and it is now the time to return to that fit gal I was and mostly am.

Next post I will be sharing my new photos. Recently I was at a conference with Lynette Lewis and I had the opportunity to meet Lisa Osteen Comes. She was working at Lakewood Church and opend the mail where she received a bomb. She suffered much under this bomb but all in all her confidence and faith in God always has her stating to the world “I am the bomb”. When was the last time you looked into the mirror and saw your value? When was the last time you proclaimed to the world that you are in fact “The Bomb”? I challenge you to do that today. I know when I look at my new pictures that I am amazing and it’s time not to hide behind “false humility” but to rise up and claim the beauty and power that God has given to me. I share this so that you too will let your light shine!

The beauty and perils of this city

August 2nd, 2011

Heat where you are not sure you know your own name, opportunity that sits beside you on a dry wood bench (remember if you had a conversation with everyone on the subway platform, who knows what kind of success you could have) one that is eager to attract bed bugs…oh the beauty and perils of this concrete gymnasium we call New York City. The fascination continues around the world and those of us who live here on modest means are tempted by those we see with cuff links across the platform. How does one cross the platform from cut off jeans to pressed suits? Or do the pressed pant or skirt wearing man or woman, transform in the evening to his/her small tiny apartment like the rest of us? Is there a game we haven’t been playing? Is there truth in advertising or do we create a new reality with a new outfit? No I have not retreated to becoming a fashionista but as I look at my clothes they do not reflect the job I want but rather the job I have. Not bemoaning that fact I have a delicious little fun job to keep the bill collectors away, but I have always known and do continuously remind myself that these gifts I have been given are highly underutilized. What gifts that you have are being wasted? Could it be that you just need to wrap yourself in a new package to get the attention and then in turn the job just right for your talents? Off to TJ Maxx and Daffy’s. No business saves on their business card and our first impressions are key in this fast paced sprint that should be a marathon that we are running in. Now do I need an iron?

Long Winter comes to a close

May 30th, 2011

Being an overall positive person, I wasn’t one to really put a lot of credence in the Seasonal Affected Disorder (SAD). I thought that people could take a tap dance class or just eat healthier or even buy one of those natural lights for the home. Winter 2011 really showed me something different. It is only three weeks now that I have put away the winter coat. But with putting that a way, I have not yet been able to bring out the showers of Spring smiles or in this case Summer, as we have skipped over Spring and jumped right into Summer.

With the climate as it is, it often puts a damper on other parts of our lives. I can’t be sure, and I haven’t done any sort of research, but from my own experience I do wonder if other couples suffered from discussions that would have been avoided had they taken a normal for that season walk in the park? I wonder…I can only say that I became frustrated for so many small things, as I was forced by economics and for the climate to spend more time in my small space.

The good news is that the sun has indeed come out. Whether it can completely rejuvenate all that was lost in the continual frost, that remains to be seen; but I can say that I feel slightly better.

So there’s the bad news the good news is that The Resource Girl does still live and she has found a favorite new resource It is a place where you can go and read or study or job search that is FREE, and there is FREE coffee and FREE tea. 10 W.18th st. This has been a saving grace for my continuing to live in this small space.

Other random news, there is a new book that is in the works, new topic, new direction but the key thing is new. When we have something new to focus on, there can be new hope that rides along side these projects. With hope, all things are possible.

Surviving in the city…

New Year’s Health Talk

January 9th, 2011

After three years of battling Lyme Disease, I have been healed. It was a journey that I would like to share with you. If you are interested in hearing my story, I have 13 seats available at a talk I am doing in NYC. Go to Amy Harrell on Facebook, you can see my profile picture which is fruit and two water pictures. Part of my healing has come by the immune support that I receive by taking Juice Plus go to to learn more about that.

My book “I’m Here, Now What?! An Artist’s Survival Guide for NYC!” continues to sell on and I hope to write a new one in this upcoming half decade (as in 5 years), but my healing was (and is) top priority.

Hugs for a Healthy Happy New Year, full of Increase!

Happy Holidays!

November 16th, 2010

This is the time of thanksgiving and seeking to share with others a gift to encourage peace on earth. This season for me is a time full of thanksgiving. As you can see the posts have been fewer this past year as I spent the first 6 months radically changing my diet, taking two anti-biotics and 21 supplements for my Lyme Disease. Now almost 6 months later I am healed and have much to be thankful for. I feel blessed to be able to work and to begin to pick back up where I left off and hopefully do even better in this life; by taking my renewed energy and coupling that with my time of reflection=to possibily get closer to wisdom.

Looking forward to sharing some cool happenings that are going on around NYC. Currently a high reccomendation of a place where you can share your coins-would be Basil in Crowne Heights. It is a Kosher Italian Bistro. Pizza, Pasta and Fresh Seafood!

Peace on Earth, Good Will Toward Men!

Massaging the inner-artist

February 20th, 2010

Months have past since I have posted, you may or many not be wondering, where has the Resource Girl been? She has been putting out personal fires and attempting to take all of her own splendid advice.

Last night I slipped out of my campground, I affectionately call my apartment “The Campground”, and placed myself in the arms of a nurturing little group on called The New York Cultural Circle. It was held in a persian rug shop on the upper west side. Vegan treats, yummy beef cheek and delish, if not turkish delights, deserts equally enchanting to the tongue. We were a very eclectic group with all age ranges, economic classes and races. There to share our works of art perfected, in progress, maybe just the seedling of an idea-we were met with open arms of support as well as warm Turkish tea served by our gracious host. Each one opening their hearts to a perfect stranger and revealing the thing that really “jazzes” them.

Reading from my book aloud reminded me of the implulsive, forward thinking energy that I had when I wrote it. It put me right up close and personal with my best self. Feeling I provided encouragment to others, as they did to me, and a profound reminder that I have been hiding in my tent for too long.


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